So, it's time to start asking questions. Because right now, we know it's not.
Here's my first question: how come you don't get them the same way?
Here's how you get a marriage license (obl disclaimer: I am one of the 18,000)
- Must go personally to county office with check
- County officer sits down with you to review rules
- Get married within 90 days with an appropriately certified person performing marriage (JP, Clergy, or one-day-commissioner)
- get witnesses to sign
- Submit for filing
- receive copy of official filed version
- Download form
- Go have it notarized at Kinko's
- mail in with a check.
It sounds trivial. But if they claim it's the same, damn right we should make sure it's the same. SAME requirements for a licensed "presider". SAME requirements for witness. SAME DAMN FORM provided at the SAME PLACE.
There are other restrictions. DP's must currently share a residence; straight couples, not. Dissolution is different. Portability is non-existant (my marriage is recognized in several other states and numerous countries. A DP, not.) All of these differences must be eliminated. Will they be the same then? HELL, NO. The court in New Jersey found that civil unions are not the same, and indeed, our own court found just a year ago that the Word Matters.
BUT we should make them stick to what they said. They SAID it was the same. C'mon people. It's going to be 2010 before we get this back. Let's get everything we can in the meantime and prove the point. I want those fundies spending their money in court trying to keep us from getting our rights, so their bigotry is clear to see.