Nevermind the first utter FAIL in logic: we do not restrict marriage to the fertile, we do not require fecundity for marriage to continue. And of course, second, GLBT couples are busy raising kids: either from previous marriages, surrogates, or adoption. (I kept asking the supporters in the twitter feed,why do they hate my children?) There's also the third fallacy that somehow assumes that if GLBT people marry, straights will stop having children. The corollary to this is that if they block marriage, we will all become straight and/or give our children back. ????
We've rehearsed these arguments over and over. But do Americans really agree that Marriage = Procreation?
And the answer is, no. In the NY Times this week:, in a post entitled "Do Kids Still Matter to Marriage?"
The writer goes on to quote the author of another study, Barbara Whitehead, who finds that the trend towards fewer children later is changing American marriage.
A few years ago, the Pew Research Center released a survey called “What Makes Marriage Work?” Not surprisingly, fidelity ranked at the top of the nine-item list — 93 percent of respondents said faithfulness was essential to a good marriage.
But what about children? As an ingredient to a happy marriage, kids were far from essential, ranking eighth behind good sex, sharing chores, adequate income and a nice house, among other things. Only 41 percent of respondents said children were important to a happy marriage, down from 65 percent in 1990. The only thing less important to a happy marriage than children, the survey found, was whether a couple agreed on politics.
For most of the nation’s history, Americans expected to devote much of their adult lives to the nurture and rearing of children. Life with children has been central to norms of adulthood, marriage and the experience of family life. Today however, this historic pattern is changing. Life without children is becoming the more common social experience for a growing percentage of the adult population.The Prop8 defenders are trying to blame same sex marriage for this change. The fact is, as is the case for divorce, the heterosexuals did this all themselves. The GLBT community is just a convenient scapegoat for those unhappy with changing times.
Update This op/ed offers a great quote:
All of this brings up a strange inconsistency to the opponents of same-sex marriage. Their ends -- every child gets a mom and a dad -- are strangely mismatched to their means -- prohibit same-sex marriage. It's sort of like banning bad moustaches to stop pornography. Perhaps there's some vague association, but that's about it.
Same-sex marriage isn't nearly the root of the problem, and we all know it. If it's really so important that every child gets a mom and a dad, then there is an obvious policy solution: prohibit divorce after childbirth. Of course, divorced parents are numerous and politically powerful, and it's always easier to scapegoat a minority.